Assignment #7: Self-Value

Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point - that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative - self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them. (Jennifer James)

    

     The last person that will always love you is yourself. Without yourself you are nobody. Jennifer James summarizes the whole main idea. Value yourself and look inside your heart. Understand that there is no one else in this world that dresses like you, acts the way you do, shares the same thoughts as you do, finds interest in things that no one else does. You will find things humorous that no one else will think its funny. Jealousy is never the answer. You will never know what that person is going through. Yes, that girl may look skinny or have beautiful hair, but what if her mom is taking drugs or her father is an alcoholic and/or in jail. Would you be jealous then? Do not look for the things you do not have in others, but rather the things that person doesn't have that you do have. I think that is what Jennifer is trying to say when she says "Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within."

I know there are a lot of people who become jealous real easily mainly because the person him or her may like does not like them but rather their best friend. People become envious and resent ever knowing them. I feel bad, but that is when you really start realizing who that person really is the cause of low self-esteem and self-value. When you value yourself, it gives way for more opportunities in life. Loving yourself opens doors to things you never actually dreamed of doing. There are going to be barriers coming across your path, step over them and continue on your way. How can one love someone, when you cannot love yourself?  

I was one of those jealous-type of girls. I did not understand why I was the way I was and the 6^th grade girl sitting next to me in class looked older, more beautiful, and happier than I did. I could not concentrate because my guy classmates would always pull up a chair and talk to her. I sat there and I felt like crying because I never got that attention not even from the nerds in the class. I felt outlawed and unwanted. I slowly began to not give a flip about life and just try to face the fact that we are two different people and I will never come close to becoming her. With that on my mind, I started to forget why I was mad, why I was envious and blinded by this girl. I started to realize that yes, I will never become close to becoming like her because I’m much more valuable and beautiful to be jealous over someone who used people. I started loving myself more when I realized I don’t have to be her to get attention. As a matter a fact, my eyes were opened when I found out that I don’t need attention to feel wonderful.

 Days passed and felt confident about myself. Then one day, the guy that every girl fell for, came up to me and gave me a note. This is what is said:

“Hey…um…I don’t know if you ever noticed me, but I want you to know I always keep an eye on you. I think you are the most beautiful girl I have ever seen in my life. Please give me a call.  J”